Guidelines for the Neighborhood

Hello!!! And welcome to the #4goals Neighborhood.

We are a group of people committed to living with great intention, radical kindness, nonjudgmental exploration of ideas, the desire to make the world a better place, laughter, appreciation of our fragile earth, friendship and support, great love and an honest to goodness neighborhood where we all feel connected, valued, heard, loved and respected.

Involvement

There are a few ways to be involved in this group

You are welcome to be an observer (formerly known as lurkers). We have members who never have and never will post. They are appreciated and their energy is here with us.
You are welcome to post as often as you like and pretty much whatever you like (with a few ground rules...see below).
You are welcome to post intermittently and only stop by once in a while.
You are welcome to read every post or only the responses to your own posts or anything in between.
You are welcome to post to everyone or to no one or to only a few people you like to keep track of. There is no inner circle or top tier in our neighborhood. All are welcome here.
This is a closed group so only the members can see our posts. (Please keep in mind this is still the internet )

Goals

The format of setting or reviewing goals is very personal. Take some time to read through the posts and see the various styles of posting.

Each participant has their own process.
Each person has their own goal areas, which can change and evolve often.
Some involve outlining intentions for the day, others review their experiences and touch on each area while recapping.
Some use pictures, others funny stories.
Some members never post about their goals and instead just share thoughts and ideas.
Some members post funny stories, or memes.
Some ask for advice.
Some bring offerings to the group in the form of recipes, inspirational quotes, messages on tea bags, or articles of interest.
It is all welcomed and appreciated.
We encourage and support each other to “reframe” how we view the world. Of course negative thoughts are part of life, and engaging in the world with a positive and life enhancing energy makes it easier. We help each other to do this.
Picking OLW (one little word) to focus on is a way that some of us help to frame our decisions.
Mr Rogers is our hero. (We love Fred).

Rules

This group is a place of non judgment. Judgment includes telling people they are wrong, grammar checking, unsolicited advice, offering opinions that state that yours is the only correct way to to think, shaming, blaming or mocking. This will not be accepted.
The admin team reserves the right to remove anyone from the group if they engage in behavior that is determined to cause harm (physical, emotional or psychological) to another member. This decision resides at the sole discretion of the admin team.
How to post instead. Frame your thoughts and own them. Ask questions and approach with curiosity about learning more about what others are thinking.
Politics are not off limits nor are controversial topics, however debates about these topics are not permitted. Although we are not looking for an echo chamber or a place where we all agree, there are other forums in which you can have robust debates about topics, including personal messaging.
Admin reminder (from 7/27/24 post) - we no longer allow outside fundraising of any kind in our #4Goals group. We do however want to be able to provide support where needed. If you see an outside need please reach out to an admin or a board member to discuss next steps. Going forward the admins will delete any posts that contain fundraising. Outside fundraising examples - GoFundMe, charity groups, shelters, Sharing Venmo. Wishlists.
Swearing is allowed.
Off topic conversations are allowed.
Confidentiality is required.
Selling stuff is not part of our thing.
Recommending stuff is.

Hashtags

#fredfriends

There are times in this group when an opportunity to collectively help others comes up. When this happens we will put out a call for #fredfriends (please message an admin if you are interested in initiating a #fredfriends project). The signal will be put out and then information will be given via private message to interested members. Sometimes these projects include financial support and other times they are a call for prayers or outreach or cards/letters of support.

#lookup

This is used to call attention to the beauty of our natural world. Taking the time to pay attention to what is going on around us is a hallmark of #4goals and looking up is a way of sharing that with others.

#4loretta

One of our beloved members has recently passed away and has asked that we do good deeds to make someone else's day a little brighter in her honor. We use the hashtag #4loretta to indicate that we are thinking of her while helping others.

#FNTB (Friday Night Thought Bubbles).

This is an opportunity for a brain dump to share whatever is on your mind. (go ahead search for the thought bubble emoji now. )

#whatsyoursmile

This is exactly as it says...something that makes you smile. No explanation necessary

conveys a hug.

Notifications

This is a very active group. Please set your notifications accordingly. If you need help doing this please message an admin. If you would like to leave the group, feel free...we are not monitoring and will miss you, and understand.
If you have any questions at all, please ask. You will be met with kindness always.